“我就退出家长群怎么了！”近日，“压垮一个成年人仅需一个家长群”成为了刷屏话题。

　　而这一切都源自江苏一位家长在自制短视频中的一声大喊：

　　“我就退出家长群怎么了”↓

　　据央视新闻报道，从视频内容来看，这位家长认为老师要求家长批改作业、辅导功课，使得自己承担了老师应负的责任和工作。

　　视频结尾处，这位家长问道：“教是我教，改是我改，之后还要昧着良心说老师辛苦了，到底谁辛苦？”

　　A father from Jiangsu province posted a short video online saying that his child's class adviser had asked parents to correct their children’s homework and tutor them accordingly. He believes that it is effectively asking parents to do the work of the teacher. 

　　At the end of the video, he posed the question, "I teach the children, I correct the homework, and then I have to say in the WeChat group that I appreciate teacher's hard work. But who is the one working hard?"

　　无独有偶，央视新闻报道中还揭露：江西一所学校三年级的家长群中，老师甚至直接点名批评几名没给孩子批改好作业的家长。

　　Following the trending video, CCTV News investigated the issue of parent-teacher WeChat groups and found one example of a class teacher directly criticizing parents for not correctly overseeing their children's homework in a group. 

　　这些家长群里出现的问题，引发不少家长共鸣，家长群本应是家校沟通的桥梁，却无形间成为了“压力群”。

　　很快，相关话题便冲上热搜，目前阅读量已经超过6.3亿↓↓↓

　　在微博评论区中，有一条高达17万点赞的评论如此写道：以前没有群，老师都是怎么过的？

　　变了味的“家长群”

　　除了批改作业之外，“家长群”中还存在着一系列额外的任务与压力。

　　据梨视频报道，今年国庆前夕，一位孩子的爸爸在家长会上突然情绪崩溃。原因是自己经常消息不回，经老师善意提醒后，感到工作生活都太难，由此情绪失控。

　　Another parent also had a mental breakdown about receiving and replying to endless messages in his group chat with teachers, having to make time after work for his kid to help with the school assignments, given the fact that he is already busy with his job.

　　对于这位爸爸的情绪失控，许多家长纷纷表示：特别理解。

　　而为了替孩子在老师面前博得好印象，有的“家长群”还成了“夸夸群”：家长们开启称赞、感恩接龙模式。

　　Teacher-parent WeChat groups are popular across China and originally were set up to facilitate communication between parents and teachers. However, more recently, they have taken on the reputation of being “flattery groups” in which parents try to curry favor with teachers. 

　　老师也苦“家长群”久矣

　　不光家长抱怨，老师同样对家长群有诸多不满。有老师甚至感慨：自从进了微信群，每天都是家长会！

　　据央视新闻报道，北京一所中学的刘老师称，在班级家长群中，发一条学校通知，家长就“轰炸式”回复。

　　刘老师一方面感谢家长对自己工作的支持，但另一方面也很苦恼，“这样回复，容易让后来的家长看不到重要信息。”因为手机总有点不完的未读信息，刘老师也感觉自己对手机产生了“恐惧”。

　　However, many teachers are less than happy about the chat groups as well, because they feel obliged to answer questions and requests from parents at any time.

　　One teacher surnamed Liu from a middle school in Beijing said he felt "afraid" of mobile phones because there was always a lot of unread information from parents.

　　央视新闻报道还称，甚至连幼儿园的老师们也倍感压力。南昌市一所幼儿园的陈老师表示，自己每天花费精力最多的事情就是追着孩子们拍摄短视频。“从孩子进园到放学，从教室里到教室外，我几乎是跟踪拍摄，一天要在家长群发至少10个短视频，让家长们知道自己孩子在幼儿园里的情况。”

　　中部某省一位幼师说：“老师们早7上班是常态，晚5下班的却不多。大多时候家长们加班会晚接孩子，期间老师们不能表现出一丝不满，还要体谅家长们的辛苦奔波。周末偶尔会安排学习以及常规招生。”

　　Even kindergarten teachers also felt the pressure. Some say they spent a lot of time and effort chasing children to shoot short videos for their parents every day and should show no dissatisfaction when parents picked up their children late.

　　如何还原“家长群”本来模样？

　　为了避免家长与老师的双重苦恼，不少地方的学校开始“自立规矩”。例如，班主任在群里规定，群内只发学校公告和班级通知，绝不就个别学生情况在群里做讨论。

　　大连一幼儿园更为明确，直接在家长群中设立9条规定。其中明确了老师和家庭沟通的时间，并特别说明，切忌在群中发送奉承拍马的内容。

　　10月26日，太原教育局出台《关于进一步做好中小学生减负工作的实施意见》。明确指出，严禁要求家长批改作业、打扫教室卫生、点赞转发各类信息等。

　　北京市教委去年1月也曾发布相关通知，其中对家校群提出了如下要求：家校群由班主任或年级组长管理，要引导家长树立正确教育观和成才观，学习交流科学有效的家庭教育方法。师生群由任课教师或社团教师管理，要充分体现为人师表，积极引导学生健康成长。家长群由家长委员会管理，要引导家长积极参与家校合作。学生群由学生负责人管理，要弘扬社会主义核心价值观，积极传播正能量。工作群由工作负责人管理，不得发布与工作无关内容。临时设立的群组，在任务完成后由建立者及时解散。 

　　Both educational institutions and local authorities appeared to have come up with ideas to solve the problem in many ways. 

　　A local kindergarten in Dalian, northeast China’s Liaoning Province, has made it clear how communication should be conducted in group chats with parents and teachers; education authorities in Taiyuan and Beijing also issued relevant regulations that teachers are not allowed to ask parents to help with the homework, clean the classroom, or like, share and repost links in the group chat. The temporary group chat has to be deactivated after the work’s done.

　　这些做法受到了许多家长的欢迎：早盼着这一天了……

　　但同时也有人表示反对，认为家长不批改作业，参与到孩子的学校教育中来，怎么知道孩子差在哪？自己的孩子得自己管，教育这件事不能完全靠老师。

　　实际上，家长群本身只是服务老师与家长沟通的方式之一，但这并不是唯一有效的方式，校方也在探索，如统一用企业微信把通知发到家长微信上，避免接收信息端口太多等问题。

　　但不管怎样，家长和学校双方还是应该互相理解，毕竟，教育永远离不开两者的紧密配合。